One of my hobbies is driving racing car simulators. Some will find it sad, others will understand. An interesting thing about driving virtual cars at incredibly high speeds around virtual circuits is that if one focuses on the obstacles ahead, one usually hits them.
Aim for the spaces however and we almost always find them.
This doesn’t require some kind of self-help, $10,000 book reading investment. It is a simple truth.
The real skill, and where you will achieve while other fail, is accepting that the obstacles are real. It is a matter of balancing your vision with reality.
So aim for the spaces but wisely.